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Bullying

All bullying is unacceptable and should not be tolerated. It can affect anyone, and all people are all potential targets – either as an adult, child, at work, at school, within the community, at home, or online.

Generally, most people understand that bullying is a behaviour by an individual or a group, repeated over time, that is intended to hurt another individual or group either emotionally or physically. 

Bullying can be defined in many ways and can also be described as unwanted conduct of behaviour designed to cause harm or distress to another person. It can be characterised as offensive, intimidating, malicious or insulting behaviour, an abuse or misuse of power through means intended to undermine, humiliate, denigrate or injure the recipient. 

Bullying can be related to age, sex, race, disability, religion, sexual orientation, nationality or any personal characteristics of the individual, and maybe persistent or an isolated incident.

The key is that the actions or comments are viewed as demeaning and unacceptable to the recipient.

Bullying falls under 4 main categories psychological, verbal, physical and cyber bullying. 

Its effects can have far reaching consequences. 

Bullying can have an impact on anyone.

As an adult, if you believe you are being bullied, you probably are. There is a lot of truth in this statement but there are other factors to consider too. 

  • Is the (perceived) bullying impacting on your performance or your health?  
  • Do you suffer from headaches or nausea? 
  • Are you having sleepless nights, or do you dread Monday mornings?

If a combination of these symptoms apply, then something is wrong. You need to take control of the situation and do something about it.

Signs

A child is being bullied:

  • Unexplainable injuries
  • Lost or destroyed clothing, books, electronics, or jewellery
  • Frequent headaches or stomach aches, feeling sick or faking illness
  • Changes in eating habits, like suddenly skipping meals or binge eating. Kids may come home from school hungry because they did not eat lunch
  • Difficulty sleeping or frequent nightmares
  • Declining grades, loss of interest in schoolwork, or not wanting to go to school
  • Sudden loss of friends or avoidance of social situations
  • Feelings of helplessness or decreased self esteem
  • Self-destructive behaviours such as running away from home, harming themselves, or talking about suicide

A Child is Bullying Others:

    • Get into physical or verbal fights
    • Have friends who bully others
    • Are increasingly aggressive
    • Get sent to the principal’s office or to detention frequently
    • Have unexplained extra money or new belongings
    • Blame others for their problems
    • Don’t accept responsibility for their actions
    • Are competitive and worry about their reputation or popularity