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Emotional Abuse

Emotional abuse is the ongoing emotional mistreatment of a person by another. It is sometimes known as psychological abuse and can have severe impact on a person’s life.

It can involve deliberately trying to scare, intimidate, frighten, or humiliate an individual. 

Emotional abuse allows the perpetrator to gain power and control over someone through their language, behaviours, and gestures, which over time erode the person’s sense of self-respect, confidence, and self-belief.

Emotional abuse can sap a person’s confidence making it difficult for them to form or maintain relationships outside of the relationship with their partner. Victims of emotional abuse struggle to feel worthy or valued.


Signs

  • Isolating you from seeing friends or family
  • Threats by the perpetrator that they will hurt themselves if you leave
  • Telling you that you are selfish for spending time with others
  • Extreme jealousy (which is different from being in a mutually exclusive or committed relationship)
  • Constant demands to prove you have been faithful. For example, having to show phone records, or in-depth questioning about past relationships
  • Controlling behaviours, such as needing to respond to messages or calls immediately no matter what you are doing
  • Feeling agitated, fearful, or concerned of upsetting your partner
  • A lack of respect for your property, clothes, or income
  • A noticeable drop in your self-esteem and confidence
  • Increased use of alcohol or drugs
  • Escapist behaviour - constantly researching holidays, looking for a new job or place to live