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Self-Esteem

Self-esteem is how we value and perceive ourselves.  It's based on our opinions and beliefs about ourselves, which can sometimes feel really difficult to change. 


Your self-esteem can affect whether you:

  • like and value yourself as a person
  • are able to make decisions and assert yourself
  • recognise your strengths and positives
  • feel able to try new or difficult things
  • show kindness towards yourself
  • move past mistakes without blaming yourself unfairly
  • take the time you need for yourself
  • believe you matter and are good enough
  • believe you deserve happiness
The things that affect our self-esteem differ for everyone.
Your self-esteem might change suddenly, or you might have had low self-esteem for a while​ – which might make it hard to recognise how you feel and make changes.

Difficult or stressful life experiences can often be a factor, such as:

  • being bullied or abused
  • experiencing prejudice, discrimination, or stigma, including racism
  • losing your job or difficulty finding employment
  • problems at work or while studying
  • ongoing stress
  • physical health problems
  • mental health problems
  • relationship problems, separation, or divorce
  • worries about your appearance and body image
  • problems with money or housing

You might have had some of these experiences, and you might also have had difficulties that aren't listed here. Or there might not be one particular cause.

Whatever has affected your self-esteem, it's important to remember that you have the right to feel good about who you are. 

It might feel as if changing things will be difficult, but there are lots of things you can try to improve things bit by bit, see below:

  • Be kind to your self
  • Look after your self
  • Try to notice good things
  • Build a support network
  • Contact a professional
  • Be more assertive
  • Set yourself a challenge